The Six Human Needs
The need for the feeling that everything is settled, secure,
and that there are no nasty surprises around the corner.
The need to feel that life is interesting, diverse, exciting and challenging.
The need to feel that you have meaning to others, you are unique, special, important.
The need to feel love from and for, and connection with others.
The need to bond, experience intimacy, to feel oneness.
Everyone, without exception, finds a way to get these first four needs fulfilled,
even if it is in a very low quality and sometimes negative way. For instance, the compelling,
overwhelming need for Love & Connection explains why someone will stay in an abusive relationship.
As terrible as the abuse is, it is a form of connection. Without appropriate help the individual
chooses to stay, over the uncertainty of leaving, with the fear of living without any kind of connection.
The fifth and sixth needs are not met by everyone, yet their consistent attainment is the key to a life
of fulfillment. Survival is possible, indeed common, without fulfilling these two needs. The life you want
and deserve, however, is not.
The need for the feeling that we are growing, intellectually, spiritually, physically
The need to feel that we are giving of ourselves for the benefit of other
living things – that we are contributing to life itself